[Anonymous August 27, 1998 at 10:01 pm Post count: 93172]

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Denise has posted this message to the BB before, but it bears repeating
for people who want to help their loved ones through the trials and
triumphs of Graves’ disease:

Having Graves’ disease, we all go through a roller coaster of
emotional reactions and feelings. I think it is very important
to share with you some of the ways YOU, family members, and friends
can help. You may feel helpless, but there are a few things YOU can do:

BE THERE FOR THEM
You do not have to have all the medical or theological answers
about their situation. A simple hug, a reassuring touch and a listening
ear can be a most efficient therapy.

BE CALM
Remember, you are there for them. They may be looking for you
to be a source of strength and emotional security. Try to have
a soothing and calming effect on them.

BE PRESENT AT CRISIS TIMES
Be there for them at the beginning of major treatment processes (RAI or
surgery) or after devastating test results. Just your presence can be
a welcome source of encouragement.

OFFER A SENSE OF HUMOR AND CONTACT WITH THE OUTSIDE WORLD
Laughter can be among the best medicines when used appropriately.
Graves’ patients need a good joke or funny story once in a while!

HELP THEM EVALUATE AND TAKE ADVANTAGE OF AVAILABLE RESOURCES
There are many support groups and agencies that provide beneficial
services to Graves’ patients. Organizations such as the National
Graves’ Disease Foundation and Thyroid Foundation of America offer
excellent resources for the patient, family, and friends.

ALLOW THEM TO EXPRESS THEIR EMOTIONS
Let them cry when they need to. Try not to be judgmental when
they express anger or are depressed. Again, learn to listen!

DON’T FORGET THE SIMPLE THINGS
Simply asking, “What can I do for you to help you out?” may inspire
some relief!

It’s has been said that “A friend in need is a friend indeed!”

(Show this handout and advice to family, friends and significant
others!)

[Anonymous August 27, 1998 at 10:26 pm Post count: 93172]

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Jon M,

What a wonderful boyfriend you are!!! I wish you
could talk to my husband!! He tries to be supportive
but it is difficult for a number of reasons. Please
listen to how she feels, realize that alot of her
behavior will be related to how she feels. One thing
my husband has a hard time with is that he feels I
am taking things out on him, I am mad at him, when
it is my Graves’ disease “talking” and I am having
a bad day. Both of you should try to gain as much
info as you can about the disease. Let her talk about
it. My husband sometimes tells me he is tired of
hearing how I don’t feel good, etc. I NEED to talk
about it.

Good luck!

Kristy

[Anonymous August 28, 1998 at 12:35 am Post count: 93172]

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Dear Jon M
I was wondering if your girlfriend has been treated yet maybe she still is having the irritability and the tremors that go along with graves and she can’t help but be like this at the present time mind you what a sweety you are,there are plenty of girls that would just love to put you in there pocket right about now you are so sweet and thoughtfull,but do be carefull maybe she can’t help the way she is and maybe she should be allowed to have her feelings and get them off her chest anyway,good luck

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