I’d like to share an exerpt from a book called Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor E Frankl
“We who lived in the concentration camps can remember the men who walked through the huts comforting others, giving away their last piece of bread. They may have been few in number, but they offer sufficient proof that everything can be taken from a man but one thing: The last of his freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”
and a quote from Aldous Huxley-
“Experience is not what happens to a man. It is what a man does with what happens to him.”
This is a realistic expectation in every case. I’d be happy to debate the point.