Next time this happens (it’s too late for this time!) why don’t you just go lay down next to your wife and hold her? If you can’t sleep, at least you are with the one you love. Sometimes that is enough to relax you into falling asleep. And I am sure she would appreciate the company once in a while!
Hope you feel better soon.
Val
PS: And instead of soldier and soldierettes, how about warriors? Women can be warriors too, you know.