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in reply to: Mom has hyperthyroidism- family is falling apart. #1170838

I am sorry to here about your moms illness. I just wanted to put my two cents in. I have suffered for six years from this disease and I too left my husband and I hope I can give you some insight.

We do have an intolerence to everything……. I have had long beautiful hair my since kindergarten ( Im 39 now) and even my hair iritated me so bad I cut it off to a couple of inches long. I hate short hair. I cant stand my cats to touch me or lay on me and I have had them for ten years. I cuss my kids and say things I never would before and then feel horrible. I was a very outgoing person always on the road taking my kids to chuckee cheese, the beach, the mall, the movies etc.. never did i stay at home….and I have spent the last five years in my home a virtual prisioner. Graves disease affects your hypothalimus were thought and reason are and what we do often makes no sense. I went thirty three years and never touched drugs not so much as a puff of a joint and I was off doing drugs becuase I hated what was happening to me.

That being said I never lied. There were problems in my marriage verbal and physical abuse that I had tolerated. When you get this disease it gives a voice to us that did not stand up for ourselves or for those of us who were trying to what was best for our children and trying to keep our family together. DONT DISCOUNT WHAT YOUR MOM IS SAYING ABOUT THE VERBAL ABUSE. My guess is that she like me had a tolerance for things like that and now we have a tolerance for nothing. I now can often be quoted as saying “better to be alone than to wish you were alone”.

Often in this disease we do alot of thinking. We get caught up in our on head with anxiety and depression and I was the most up beat and had the paitence of Jobe. The fact is I don’t no more and she probably doesn’t either. We no what is wright and wrong and things that are wrong now eat at every last nerve we have left.

Your mom probably had these issues all along but just let them go they just didn’t bother her the way they do now.

Your mom can’t help the way she feels because these feelings are stronger than anything she has probalby ever felt before. Love your mother unconditionally, and set healthy boundaries in yalls relationship becuase she needs you now probably more than she ever has she just doesn’t know it.

I wish you luck with your family!

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