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in reply to: Worry about cold/sore throat? #1071864

You’re welcome ” title=”Wink” /> .
Just don’t ask my kids about me being patient…not sure they would agree! LOL

When I became sick I made sure that everyone wash their hands when coming in from out side. The store, school doesn’t matter, everyone washes their hands and that is that. Frequently wash door knobs, light switches and toilet handles as well.

While out and about when you have to meet people, keep handiwipes (antibacterial) on you or alcohol wipes so you can wipe your hands after shaking hands with people if you dont have a bathroom available to wash properly. I know it sounds a bit over done but when you are sick you have to do it because our immune systems aren’t as strong.

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in reply to: You have Graves. Ok. I get it. #1071877

I would have to agree, I said you stopped taking the Tapazole(methimazole) so any advice here from me would be for you to go back in it. I know about spanish background and I would have to say as with anything there are side effects from what ever we do. Your hair will continue to fall out if you don’t take care of your thyroid. Not taking any medicine to help control it will only make you worse.
it seem that the dr. that you were seeing under your husbands ins. was good to put you a the drug and try to put your thyroid in a better place. As with anything again I say there are side effects but sometimes they go away and sometimes they don’t. There is another drug out there called PTU it does the same as the Tapazole that you are on. I was on that because I was looking to get pregnant and being on that drug was a better choice than Tapazole. Please go back to your specialist and know that this disease will get worse if you ignore it. If you are of Spanish background then you will understand this…. "God gives us the tools to help us but we have to pick up the tool and use it in order to get better". ?Entienda? ” title=”Wink” />
Be good to you and get the help you need to get better. Nothing is perfect and no dr. is perfect, if you find that you dont like this dr. then seek another until you find one that you trust.

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in reply to: Graves or age? #1071847

Hi!!!
I’m just starting my period as of last night. It was cd 32 for me and I’ve always been a little wacky with my period. I was due to get it on day 30 but didn’t until day 32 and i"m in remission for two years now.

I do have to say that as far as cycles go, being late or early with your period has nothing to do with anything going on at that time. it’s during your ovulation time that if there is stress can make your period late or early. you are 51 which is an age that might start seeing some menopausal symptoms. This might be the starting of it, you should speak with ObGyn or just GYN about this and get a check up and don’t forget your papsmear and a mammo if you haven’t gone already for it as an annual visit.

My mom is 54(yes she is young) and just about 2 years ago finally went into full menopause and had had symptoms for many years before that.

I know you checked with your endo but i think making sure that gyn knows is important as well.

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in reply to: Lack of Support #1071889

Ok I have to say this….. If he is a kind person and has become in a way you dont like it might be because of the way have acted due to your illness. Don’t break his hump over it, try to take it with a grain of salt and realize that he has been seeing this from way on the other side. If he is a good man, he might just feel that you have given all the burden to him and he is fed up with it and fed up with teh dr’s and bullcrap (in his eyes) and just wants you to get off yer butt and do your work in the house and take care of him and your child. Remember there are always two sides, what he sees and what you see. But it doesn’t mean one is better than the other. It means he saw it from his point of view and you saw it through yours. You were sick and didn’t know what was going on and he saw a mean,moody lazy woman sitting about the house complaining all the time.

BE HONEST and tell him to be honest and DON’T get mad when he is honest. We tend as females to take everything so personally when our dh’s tell us the honest truth. Heck i’m all for honesty, tell it like it is so there is no doubt as to what he is thinking. There is no nonsense about it and its right out there in the open. He might say hey you and I haven’t had sex in 2months or 6months and I need some and you better do something about it or i’ll go get it else where! Yes he might say it, but don’t get upset, say "i’m sorry I haven’t been myself, thank you for letting me know that you feel lonely and i’m sorry i haven’t made you feel attractive or something like that…." Always make a negative postiive. That was his way of saying hey I miss us, yes in his own rude insensitive way but hey Men are from Mars and women are from Venus is the truth.

Take a deep breathe and remember that if he has change due to your actions during your illness and not being diagnosed properly then you have room to fix things and heal TOGETHER. There is always a way to win your marriage back and grow together!!

ok I said it I said it I said it…I had to because family takes a beating as well as the one who is sick and he might not be such a non supportive person after all. He might just not be able to figure it all out and not know how to go about making you happy so you can both move on.
Posts can seem harsh and some very bold, when you aren’t looking at the persons face that is actually typing it’s hard to judge the way the post should meant to be taken. Trust that I am being sincere and that this post comes from the heart and that marriage is important and should last forever as long as it is with the right person!!

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in reply to: Lack of Support #1071888

Sorry you are going through this. I have deleted everything that I was going to post because I after reading it over and over again I have to go with "if you have nothing nice to say about someone". ” title=”Very Happy” />

I don’t know your husband or if he was unsupportive before your illness, I don’t know the situation as to why you have broken up before but I realize that I am not a dr. and can’t help in that area. No matter what I or anyone says it is still up to you to figure out if you are in a good or bad relationship and if your daughter is worth staying in it and if it can be fixed. Is he just being that way because you are moody due to not knowing you had this disease or was he always like this. If he was always like this then you can’t assume he will change(if that is what you are hoping for). You might have matured during your time together yet he hasn’t so therefore you have to dig deep and do some searching and see if your relationship is fixable and if you want to put the time and effort into it. Or move and try to heal that way. Either way he needs to know that you are ill and that it is very real.

Did you confirm Graves with blood work or is this just the dr’s opinion when seeing your symptoms? If your dh isn’t that cool about dr’s to begin with (most people aren’t and rightfully so), then you need tests to prove it. Get the info and sit with him. Make it a postiive thing NOT a "you better listen to me". You sit down and say after all the bullcrap with dr’s that didn’t know their elbows from their knees FINALLY i got some real answers and blood work to prove that what they say is real. Always positive NOT negative. Don’t say things like finally i got real answers and I’m not crazy. Saying things like that only sets you up for him being negative and saying well that is opinion only or you can say you aren’t crazy but the jury is still out on that one. Ha ha funny funny what he thinks but you will get hurt from it and it doesn’t validate that you are really ill.

As far as your child saying that nonsense about what your husband says. Well to be honest I have 4 kids and I am a firm believer of kids do as I say not what I do. Period!!! I don’t care if someone says oh well you shouldn’t curse or fight or what ever if you don’t want your kids to do it. Bullcrap, dh works a job but that doesn’t mean he should stop because my kids shouldn’t be working right now. OR Kids shouldn’t drive a car so therefore dh should stop driving because you have to set an example. Nonsense and anyone who comes up with that to me doesn’t have kids or doesn’t have more than one. ” title=”Wink” />

You need to set your dd straight and if she says something like that she needs to be disciplined. Remember discipline is Latin, meaning Teach. You have to teach your dd to respect you always. If she doesn’t listen then make her listen by teaching her why she should listen. There is always time out or go to your room. Tell your husband that if he feels the need to disrespect you either he should breath into a paper bag till the feeling goes away OR he can save it for when dd isn’t around and you can discuss it then but NOT in front of her. and explain to him that when dd says something that she shouldn’t and it’s because she heard it from him that she still gets punished for it even if he thinks its ok for her to speak to you that way.

Grab a hold of those reins and know that you aren’t alone but you have to do some searching about your marriage and what is really going on. That can only be done with him and your pastor,minister,rabbi,priest of marriage counselor of choice. Many relationships that have illnesses end because of not being educated, not mature enough to handle the situation or just plain they dont want to deal with it.

Prayers this goes well and that you fight for your family and health.

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in reply to: Worry about cold/sore throat? #1071861

I’d say you need to break out the old reliable Jewish Penicillin(what we call chicken stew for a cold) and get to work on what your kids gave ya. (Thanks kids, hugs and kisses to them! LOL).

This is also allergy season and I am JUST getting over my soar throat after 5 weeks with it. I am not amused but happy it’s over. Congestion and headache and coughing due to post nasal drip I can’t even feel but dr. said it was there and a lot of it.
Queen is right, make sure you call dr. if you get a fever just so they know. It’s common with any cold but make sure they know just in case.

I know it’s spring but keep your throat covered up when outside and stay warm. Windows shut in case it’s allergies causing it. Lots of fluids because whether it is allergies or a cold either way fluids will help flush it all out. Sips of warm/hot water instead of tea if you prefer is just as good as tea if you dont’ like tea. Prop yourself up at night in case it’s post nasal drip so you don’t choke/cough. I didn’t cough all day but as soon as I would get into bed and lay down boy I’d cough, this horrible non productive allergy/post nasal drip cough. YUCK!!

Stop working to hard. Keep It Simple Silly (KISS) !!!!! Paper plates, plastic utensils, or use dish washer, if you start feeling really bad break out the take out menu if your budget allows for it.
If you have washer/dryer at home ONLY do ONE load a day. Wash, dry, fold and put away one a day. NO MORE then that unless someone else is folding and putting away. You will burn out while taking the meds and not feeling well at the same time. Hand wash important things that MUST be washed if not and you don’t have a washer/dryer save it for the laundromat.

Bottom line!!! TAKE IT EASY. I know what a concept being a mom but you NEED to feel better and running around after kids doing dishes, laundry and dinner isn’t going to help you feel better. Take it slow, delegate duties and if they don’t like it print the No whining sign I have in my kitchen and put it up for a while lol.

I hope this re assures you that you aren’t alone and that you are still a woman that has to look after herself even if you feel you are a mom 1st. (((((((((((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

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in reply to: My Daughter’s Weight Gain #1072747

JUST SENDING THIS TO YOUR DAUGHTER AND YOU. HOPING IT MAKES HER FEEL BETTER.

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in reply to: I wonder if Bro has it, also…:( #1071976

Hiya girl!!!
Well yep I’d say he needs a good check up. If he doesn’t want to go to dr. just let me know and I’ll send my trusty frying pan that I keep for emergencies like this.

I HATE, HATE, HATE THE COLD(did i stress hate enough lol) and when I am out of remission I am so completely without a coat during the cold and I am actually warm. I tend to be cold to begin with unless i’m pregnant or my graves is acting up.

Get him checked out, it wont hurt him to see the dr.

good luck girl

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in reply to: aspartame? #1071987

I thought this might be a good bit of info for Cathy just in case it ever comes up.

I have only drank diet soda on the very very rare occasion. I’m 35 so many 20 times in my life. I have graves although in remission.

I would like to say that I use to eat sugar cubes as snacks for years. Yes i know shame on me but I was a hyper girl and I always drank soda and ate sugar. Our great grandmother we called fat nana(it was a term of endearment, we loved her so), she was the sugar fairy and that is how we got started. We also added a lot of salt to our food as well. I drink soda still but not as much and I don’t eat extra salt to my food unless it calls for it.

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in reply to: Newly Diagnosed #1072366

Welcome anniekate. My first impression is eczema but that is because I have eczema regardless of me ever having graves’. I am sure someone will be able to say or guess what it is. Again welcome!

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in reply to: Anyone that tried natural methods/diet? #1073680

Brain fart!!!! Thank you for the explanation again.

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in reply to: Feeling better…Thanks:) #1071993

Congrats to you dear.

[mamabear]

in reply to: Graves triggered by quitting smoking? #1072084

Yes I would also like to say Congrat’s to all who have quit smoking!!!!

It will be 11 years August 14th for me.

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in reply to: No thyroid…What happens mow?? #1072016

Hoping this makes you smile!!!

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in reply to: Newly Diagnosed #1072364

You can always kick Graves’ Disease’s Butt!!!!!! It was how I tried to get through it.

FInd out what the problem was,
Figured out it was not something I could cure but had to either put into remission or get rid of it with RAI or surgery. Ok there were my options. Did the meds for it and prayed it worked. It did, but I was lucky not many can say that the meds worked and worked well enough for me to go into remission and stay in remission. I did have a relapse then another but it’s been almost two years now that I have been without meds and no problems.

IT’s not a question of when will it come back, I know it can but oh well I’ll take care of it if it does. Again not knowing is the hardest thing. Now you know, you can do something about it and arrange your life accordingly.

You now know you are tired, so make lists so that you have them at the ready for your kids.
Plan you meals per week and go shopping for a weeks worth of food at a time.

I do my menu’s usually on Wednesday’s and go shopping on Thursday’s. I take into consideration left overs as well. Or if we order pizza or chinese food. A well stocked pantry is your friend.

Make checklist’s for your kids so they know what you expect. My 2 middle children (ds6 and dd4) have lists that I make sure they do everyday and we check them off as they go. It doesnt’ have to be perfect but it does have to be done. My oldest ds14 had his own list and he knows if it doesnt’ get done he gets zip!!! dd2 is learning to pick up her toys and she dresses herself and I keep all the closets that have clothes in them locked so htey dont mess them up.

I have lists for a well stocked pantry,
I have lists for kids checklists,
I have a master grocery list ,
I have a daily to do list,
I have a room by room list that is detailed cleaning in case you choose someone like dh or a kid to do a room(from fan’s to floors is on there, it’s great)
If anyone wants them please send me a pm and I’ll email to you. I have no problem sharing what I have learned to help keep order in this house.
Oh and dont’ forget that there are times that we don’t follow these rules and the house goes to crap, but hey we pick up and start over.

I taught myself to crochet to do something good for others (kids/family/church) and it has helped. I wasn’t able to get pregnant while dealing with graves disease, it was hard and I had to keep occupied with something else so crocheting helped.

Reading helps too and puts your mind in a different state so you might want to try that. Anyone with kids should try to work on a routine to make sure kids are in bed at a decent hour so that you and you dh can have time to hang out by the tv, the fire or just on the cough to have a drink(of any kind) and just chat or sit quietly and watch tv and laugh together. My dh and I make sure we do that always.

This is really for everyone if they want to pm me and ask for any of the lists that I have.
Welcome here and i hope that you find it as warm as I have here!!!

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