[Qdulany]

#1073860

Honey,

I understand how you feel. My daughter was diagnosed at 17, but had graves when she was 16. Not many people understand how it effect children or adults. You "look" just fine. Therefore, people expect you to be "normal". Being a teenager is hard enough. High school is hard without anything to manipulate your changing hormones. Keep taking your meds. I read another post here where someone would just scream "I love you and I can’t fight anymore" Stay here and read all you can. Life is hard and you have been thrown a curve ball. Hang in there. Close your eyes, count to 10, tell yourself, this too shall pass. I have done the same thing…yell at my daughter, thinking this couldn’t possibly be all graves disease, but it can. However difficult it is, you will always be responsible for your actions. You just need to know what to expect from yourself. You are not crazy at all. This is the best place that I have found. Real people, going through the same thing. My daughter’s grades were fine in middle school too. Now, being senior, her GPA is 2.2. Do you have a 504 plan for school? Maybe an IEP. I’m new and can’t answer all your questions. I can only tell you what I have seen and felt with my daughter. You have alot on your plate, more than most kids and to have diabetes on top of it, well that has to upset you too. Is there anyone you can really talk to? Is your father willing to read the posts here? Just remember, you will get angry, but recognize your anger and do your part to manage it so that it is not harmful to you or your family, this involves your entire family. Take care of yourself.

All my love….remember…..this too shall pass…it will work out

Quinn

[cherico]

#1019756

ok im 15 , middle school clinic doctor noticed i had an enlarged thyroid gland in 06 , i got checked out and it turned out i had graves disease and hyperthyroidism and w.e .. ive been under ptu since then they say my thyroid levels are fine … but see here and if i just have an anger problem let me know .. ive been overly depressed , sometimes im fine then im real mad or just sad and dont want to take life anymore… mind u ive also been diagnosed with diabetes in 07 -.- .. yeah thats some more stress piled on me … ive been looking up graves rage and i just want to know if PTU pills is suppose to help with tht.. when im angry i bottle it in till im alone , then i start talking like the ppl tht aggrovate me are there and i yell ( i punched a hole in my wall) help me … also my 8-9 grade ex-girlfriend i still think about her and sometimes i wonder why , i feel so crazy .. so if i am i want someone to tell me now because my thyroid results are said to be fine but im so frkn stressed out and a simple poke will tick me off and my dad think im taking advantage of my condition and acting stuff out and i dont know what he be talking about -.- ” title=”Confused” />

please explain to me what PTU is suppose to help with entirely no doctor words just a simple and helpful explanation

i thought i was fine i use to get good grades in 8th grade i was student of the month everything i hit 9th grade and strted slacking i couldnt take the diabetes and pills it was so aggrovating ..

i didnt feel like doing my chores , my dad always screaming at me i couldnt help but cry … but i didnt want to and he just kept threatening me and yelling and i would argue back but at the time i swear i didnt know thts what i was doing .. everytime he’d say i said this and tht and i wouldnt even remember i dont think he understands what it is man he thinks im fine and just taking advantage of him, i just want to be happy and regular or just die i dont want to take this crap anymore i’d honestly rather be dead and be nothing i dont care how cowardous (if thts a word) this sounds.

[DianneW]

#1073861

Hi Cherico,

Wow, what a difficult mix of hormonal complications you’ve been burdened with, at such a young age! No wonder you feel crazy! You’re not, I promise. You will get better.

Once your thyroid levels are stable you begin healing from all the damage that was done while you were hyperthyroid, but it’s not instant. Stable thyroid levels for a period of time is what it takes to achieve physical and mental well-being. I had a lot of difficulty controlling my emotions, going around in a perpetual state of inner rage even for a long time after treatment, but it’s completely gone now. I’m really mellow these days about most things, and it takes a lot to upset me now, just as I was before it all came on. You too will eventually mellow out.

If you still think about your ex-girlfriend, that’s normal too. Losses are difficult. Even though I’m happily married, I still think about the first boyfriend I lost. Being unhealthy can be a very lonely time, when you don’t have the energy to form new relationships, so it can be easier to dwell on the hurts of a loss than to move on into the future. It’s important for you now not to lose faith in that future where you will be feeling better and have the positive energy to have more rewarding relationships.

Do you think it would help for your dad to have more information about what hyperthyroidism does to the mind and emotions?

I’m very concerned that you’re feeling "like being dead". If you continue to feel that way it’s important that you talk to your counselor at school, or call a suicide prevention line. It’s not so much that this is being a coward, but it’s totally unnecessary and a really short-sighted, drastic, and final solution to a problem that has so many better answers. You’re going to feel better than you do right now. I promise.

If you can, get your parents to read what you’ve posted here and invite them to post. We can help them understand what you’re going through. If that’s too difficult, please stay around and let us know how you’re doing. We care!

[cherico]

#1073862

wow those two posts helped me a bit ill keep informed this stuff is just a pain and people have been doin nothing but causing more stress since they dont understand it at all
and i unfortunately have a short fuse
i try to control it so usually instead of acting on it i just imagine what i want to do to them in my mind…
any way
ill see what i can do about talking to someone because i know its not healthy but when i talk about this i feel so weird

[DianneW]

#1073863

You’re right, not too many people understand what we’re going through, and it really is difficult! Give yourself a lot of credit whenever you are able to control yourself, because you deserve it!

I understand what you’re talking about, using fantasies to release some of your rage rather than actually doing the behaviors you feel like doing. I used that one a lot too when I was hyperthyroid. I also tried telling myself that it was only chemicals in my brain causing me to feel that way and I didn’t have to let them take control of me.

Once you get through this you’ll have a major advantage over most men: you’ll have some idea what women go through when they have PMS. The "Graves’ Rage’ is kind of like PMS, only worse. You should be very understanding of the women in your life, now that you know what it’s like.

I know it’s difficult to talk about how you’re feeling, but Graves’ Disease is a difficult illness for a teenager to live with and you shouldn’t have to deal with it alone. Even adults need a lot of emotional and psychological support. If you’re still in school, it’s normal for grades to be affected and for your friendships to suffer, and of course this also will affect your family. It’s important that your family understands the effect this has on you so they can be as much help to you as possible.

We have an informational bulletin called "Students and Graves’ Disease that I’d like to send you to give to your parents. Send me your email address by private message and I’ll send you a copy, okay?

Please hang in there and trust that better days are ahead.

Dianne

[mrstheweav]

#1073864

Cherico,

Hey! I am super new to graves disease. My doctor just told me a couple of weeks ago that I had GD. In some ways it was a relief to know that there was an actual reason that I was getting angry and stressed so easily and yet scary at the same time. It gets bad enough as an adult, I can’t imagine what it would be like as a teenager with everything else ya’ll have to deal with plus the diabetes on top of it. You have been dealt a difficult hand but since you are here looking for help I know you can take whatever life gives you, even though it may not seem like it sometimes. It seems you are definatly doing a great job taking things into your own hands and getting the information you need to help yourself. That is an excellent first step to dealing with anything.

Like I said I am new to GD so I can’t tell you much about the meds and what they do and don’t do but it seems there are already some good responses to that. But I am interning at a highschool right now as a social worker/counselor and some of the things you said really have me worried about you. You are definatly going through a difficult time right now and you are not being cowardous at all. The feelings you are having are understandable and natural but you really need to talk to someone like a school counselor about how you are feeling and the thoughts you are having. I know it may feel wierd to talk about but you will feel better once you do talk to someone. You need to find someone you trust and feel comfortable talking to but also make sure it is someone who knows what they are doing and is a professional. It is good if you have friends to talk to but also please talk to a school counselor or other professional so they can help you work through all the thoughts and emotions that are going on in your head right now. Life is worth it, even a hard one. You are doing an awesome job handling everything that is going on in your life! Sometimes it seems too tough though and we really just need someone to lean on, so lean on us, and find someone to talk to. They can help get you though and maybe even help your dad to understand a little better also.

As others have said it would certainly help if your dad and any other family or friends in your life could learn more about GD and what it can do to someone mentally and emotionally. But if that isn’t possible find support where you can, including on here, with people who understand or want to understand what you are going through. You are not alone, people care and they want to help. Please keep us up on how everything is going for you. I wish you all the best.

Niki

[hyperm]

#1073865

Hey hang in their if you read my posts the lat few weeks you will see that we are going through somthing similar. My sis was diagnosed at 13 and like you she had all the hormonal effects of a teenagers (not saying this as degrading because I have to accept that aswell as all the thyroid hormones I am just after a baby so not a good combination ” title=”Sad” /> ). She was driving us all crazy in the house and of course back then you weren’t told as much. She just wanted to sleep all the time or would become really aggreessive vocally and violently – now this is from a sister who was very soft natured etc,, She is a twin and while her twin was achieving very well at school she was falling behind etc…My parents were so worried not so much about the school situation but about this dramatic change in their daughter. Believe me when I say she was driving us crazy – my parents were very understanding but as her siblings we were all avoiding her etc.. which when i look back and now at my own situation I feel badly but then I was only 8

My personality changed completely before being diagnosed and I kid you not i went from someone going to the gym 5 times per week after work to lying on a couch all night and trying to care for a baby. I was very placid in nature and I became like a fiend from hell My poor husband had so much to deal with and was so confused as I had changed completely.

I really think your parents would benefit from reading this post you have written and perhaps like some parents have done posted on here for some advice about their kids.

Hang in their it will get better (says me who was going off my head last week but started on meds and already starting to feel the benefit)

Keep us posted xx

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