[j_rush]

#1070225

I am sorry that you are going through this. From what I am being told, it is extremely common. I am a man with graves’. I am suffering through the symptoms as well. i have lost my temper far more easily that I ever have in the past. know that he IS the man that you love. Having you there to love and support him will most definitely make the road to recovery much easier. This however does not mean it will be easy on you. I’m sure that many other people can explain this concept better to you, but I’m going to give it the ‘ol college try. Try talking to him about his triggers, the things that make him react badly. Try talking about a "safe" word he can use when he is having a graves’ rage. when he is just raging, and not actually mad at you, he can use this safe word to let you know he is not mad. Again, all of this is not going to make the road easy, just easier. Also, if you two practice different responses he can use when he encounters a trigger, it could help him to replace the rage behavior with a more productive behavior.
I hope this helps, and I know Ski or someone else can put this in much better words than I can, but hey I have no life and wanted to throw in my 2 cents.
Thanks,
2 penny Justin, relinquishing his soapbox.

[acgaravalia]

#1070226

I am not sure, but if they feel that he’s had this for a while, maybe he is unable to connect his anger issues to GD. In my case, I have been irritable and angry for a long time, and assumed it was just my personality. Hopefully, I was wrong (haven’t started any treatments yet). I really hope that he is able to get things under control and deal with his anger in a constructive way. Keep the faith that the treatments will help, and even though your beautiful young child observes this behavior, it will only get better and the child will see what great parents he/she has. Good luck, and come anytime to vent or share! Prayin for ya (if that’s OK?!)

[cestlavie]

#1019226

my husband was diagnosed with graves disease 6 weeks ago. his levels were 3 1/2 times what the normal range is. before he was diagnosed he was shaking so badly we thought he had parkinsons disease. when he was diagnosed he had lost almost 30 pounds in a month. the doctor thinks he has had this for quite some time. i say so as well because his moods have been a roller coaster for the past few years. since his diagnosis the pills havent brought his levels to a normal range yet. so he is still hyper right now. the scary thing is this is really affecting our relationship. i know his constant anger toward me is the disease but we have an 18 month old son. he acts angry toward me in front of our son. it has gotten so bad that i have had to leave the house for a few hours at a time. the worst part of it all is he is in denial about the disease and the effect on his moods. any advice out there?

[cestlavie]

#1070227

thank you both so much for the input ” title=”Smile” /> yes, i will take the prayers!!!!! he definitely is not able to connect the 2 things, he has been this way for a long time. its been very hard. i really have tried talking to him but hopefully the closer this gets to being under control the easier it will be for him to see his behavioral changes. the hardest thing is seeing him go through this. we have been together for 12 years so i know the man that i fell in love with is still there, but his anger makes it difficult to remember that sometimes. hopefully he will get better and we will both get through this and end up stronger for it. thanks again for your support.

[ewmb]

#1070228

Hi,
I remember that when I was very hyper I didn’t have the rage I had the opposite problem. I withdrew and cried a lot. I think that everyone reacts to this somewhat differently but it does seem to affect everyone’s emotions at some point. Keep on thinking about how it will get better but I would let him know that you will take yourself and your child out of the way if you think he’s getting too angry. Your child doesn’t need to be subjected to that. It might really scare him. Hopefully when he gets some treatment started things will settle down. Graves is a hard thing to go through as a family.

ewmb

[Ski]

#1070229

Everybody is so right! Try to remember this is chemical ~ there is no such thing as "keeping a lid on it," believe me, I know. I am THE most easy-going person on the planet (well, maybe runner up), and I found myself completely apoplectic over the most idiotic things when I was hyperthyroid. The thing is that you are probably right, this has likely been "brewing" in him for some time, so he may have decided that he’s fundamentally changed as a person, and it’ll take a while before he begins to realize that it was NOT just him, it is his condition.

Excess thyroid hormone can take up to six weeks to flush out of the bloodstream, even while the patient is taking ATDs (anti-thyroid drugs), so that’s just the first "waiting game" you both will need to play.

You’re smart just to get out of the area when your husband loses his temper and it’s frightening your toddler.

You’ll come out the other side of this, I know you will. Patience. It’s a long road. Learn all YOU can, and you’ll be able to help him more, even if he is in denial.

[RhondaG4]

#1070230

Hi..well is he in denial about the GD or about his reactions to the emotions? Men don’t like to think of themselves as out of control. I remember raging on the inside, trying not to let it out on the outside, thinking all the while how stupid it was at what I was mad at, and trying not to let it out on my family, but knowing I was snappy with them anyways.

Maybe….just maybe you could try a tape recorder. When you see the warning signs hit the play and record button. He may not even realize he is raging when he is doing it. Then at a calmer time, maybe play it back to him so that he can hear himself before you talk about it, and talk about a safe word. More for him to be able to sort of see he is doing it, or at least see that he is scaring your son and why your gonna go to the park for a while..or whatever excuse you can use to get out of the house without making it be "daddies fault" we are having to leave the house for a while.

Hope that helps some. Your in my prayers. Rhonda

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